Dating My Husband

465px-bundesarchiv_bild_183-2004-0512-507_spaziergangI was talking to a good friend in church yesterday when she said, “My husband asked me to take a walk in the moonlight last night…”

“How exciting!” I responded, not noticing the twinkle in her eyes.

“Yes”, she said, “we walked in the moonlight with a million stars over our heads!”

“Ohhh, how romantical!” I gushed. “Did he hold your hand?”

Then she laughed, “No, we were both holding flashlights in one hand and he had a calf puller in the other. My husband needed help finding a cow that had wandered off to have her calf.”

As I heard the story about the lost cow and their adventure in the moonlight I couldn’t help but think that it could be considered a date.

My definition of a date has changed over the years. I used to think that it was an official date only if we went out to eat and did something fun without the children.

As the babies kept coming and the finances got tighter, I soon realized that my idea was no longer practical.

I discovered that often it was those “stolen” moments in the day that became special.

Sipping root beer floats in the porch swing on a hot summer evening after the kids went to bed…

Cuddling on the couch while watching a movie…

Feeding the kids early and lighting candles to eat our supper together alone when he works late…

Waking up early and enjoying a quiet breakfast together before he heads out the door…

Holding hands on a family walk while we watch the children run on the trail ahead of us…

The secret is being together. It’s finding time to enjoy each other within the busyness of our day to day life.

It’s being creative with the time I have alone with my husband.

Even if it’s a walk in the moonlight to look for a lost cow.

No Time

What is this life if, full of care,
We have no time to stand and stare?

No time to stand beneath the boughs
And stare as long as sheep or cows:

No time to see, when woods we pass,
Where squirrels hide their nuts in grass:

No time to see, in broad daylight,
Streams full of stars, like skies at night:

No time to turn at beauty’s glance,
And watch her feet, how they can dance:

No time to wait till her mouth can
Enrich that smile her eyes began?

A poor life this is if, full of care,
We have no time to stand and stare.

~ William Henry Davies

Don’t Waste this Hour… Don’t Waste Today…

William Adolphe Bouguereau- The HaymakerSome wise words from one of my favorite authors, Edith Schaeffer:

“A balance that is important to consider…is the balance between the danger of wasting the “now” or of considering that everything is going to be static, with no future!

Don’t waste this hour, Don’t waste today…Think hard-what can you do now in this combination that you can’t do in ten years, in five years, even next year? Then do it!….

What does this summer have for you and what does today have that you can do, that won’t be possible five years from now, two years from now, next week?

Someday all that you can do today or this week will only be a memory. Let it be a memory of what you did do…

What if we have to move; what would you want to do first? What do you enjoy about this garden, this house, these books, that if it all were taken away, you’d wish you were here to do it for just one hour?…

Don’t waste the now…”

~Edith Schaeffer, from her book What is a Family.

Make Hay While the Sun Shines

We had a beautiful week! The farmers finally got into the fields and we were able to get tomatoes and peppers (both hot and sweet) in the garden. Then we took a few days to work inside cleaning the pantry and the storage room.

Although they were both in desperate need of a deep cleaning, we should have spent those three days pushing hard to get the rest of the garden in.
Round Hay Bale At Dawn
The old adage “make hay while the sun shines” is quite true. Farmers know that when the conditions are right for making hay they need to do it! They drop everything and focus on what is important, the hay crop. Once the rain comes, their crop is ruined.

Our conditions were right for planting. The garden was dry, the mulch was on and the sun was shining. We had planned to spend Thursday in the garden since the forecast was for rain later in the evening. Instead, the rain arrived at day break and changed everything.

We have since had a storm every morning for the past three days with heavy rains in the forecast over the weekend. We’ve had over an inch and a half of rain in the last 24 hours, with more on the way. It will take some time for the garden to dry out after that.

So, I have a clean storage room and pantry, but the seeds I purchased to feed my family are still sitting on the shelf and not in the garden growing. That was a mistake.

Did I learn a lesson in this? Oh yes! I realized that once again I had let the urgent take the place of the important. My priorities were mixed up.

That happens a lot in life doesn’t it? House work seems more important than reading to the children. Making supper trumps taking the time to listen to the woes of a seven-year-old. Checking emails takes priority over spending time in the Word.

I remember reading the story of a busy mom with several little ones. She had a fussy one who just wanted to be held, but she needed to get a meal on the table. So, with a little one hanging on her leg, she proceeded with the meal preparations.

A few minutes she looked down and saw that her child had actually fallen asleep sitting on her foot and hanging on to her leg.

Her heart was broken. She turned the burners off and lifted her precious sleeping baby into her arms for some cuddling.

So often the urgent things around us; the laundry, the dishes, the bills, the messes; all keep us from the truly important things in life; time with our husband, our children, and our Lord.

What’s important in your life today? Don’t let the urgent take the place of the important.

Make hay while the sun shines!