You may remember the post I wrote a few weeks ago describing how I kidnapped my children’s clean clothes to teach them to put them away.
My good friend Kim read that post – and put it into practice. But I’m afraid it caused her son great discomfort.
He was so bummed about it – he sent me this email.
“Uhhh…. thanks Mrs. Shervheim, now my mom has all my stuff and I’ll have to have a fortune or do a LOT of jobs to get it back. But at least I learned my lesson.”
I replied, “That’s great B – just wait till I tell her how I got my kids to make their beds!”
His response was a simple, but emphatic, “NOOOOOOOOOO!!!”
So of course – I couldn’t resist!
Sorry B. I can just hear your mom laughing right now. I bet you can too! 🙂
Now Mr. B – you may ask me (like my children did) what’s the big deal about making your bed – after all – you’re just going to climb back into it in a few hours – right?!
To me – it’s all about personal responsibility. It’s a daily discipline.
If you use something – put it away. If you mess something up – you fix it. If you make something dirty – you clean it.
So – if you slept in a bed, you make it up again.
I guess you could call it character building.
That’s why this momma made a new rule: all beds must be made before school every morning.
So of course my kids asked, “What will happen if it isn’t?”
I just smiled and said, “You’ll see!”
It took a couple of weeks for one of the kids to slip up – but I was ready. I stripped the entire bed – right down to removing the pillow case – and left the pile of bedding on a heap on the floor.
My kids learned quickly that it was a lot faster to pull the sheets up and straighten the blankets right away – then it was to remake the entire bed.
So there you have it Mr. B.
I feel like I should apologize in advance for any pain and discomfort I might be causing you – but I won’t. You’re a smart kid – if my kids can learn this one – I know you can.
It’ll be good for you.
After all – your mom and I both know that we aren’t raising children – we’re raising adults.
Now get in there quick and make your bed before your Momma sees it!
Someday you’ll thank me. 😉
I’ve linked this post up with Works for Me Wednesday at We Are That Family.
10 thoughts on “It’s Habit Forming – Part 2”
I love how the consequence is related to the behavior. Thanks for sharing this method (and for stopping by my blog).
That’s a pretty awesome tip! Thanks for sharing, although I’m sure B doesn’t appreciate it as much! 🙂
Brilliant idea! I’m going to have to try this with my boy.
Thanks for stopping by my blog!
I like your creative consequence approach. I’ll have to check out the clean clothes post, too. We’re not there yet, but soon . . .
Thanks for checking out my blog, too.
AWESOME!!! I just subscribed to your blog! I can’t wait to see what other brilliant ideas you have!!! 😀
So good Melinda!!
EEk. I would never have sheets on my bed if this was our house rule. It’s a good one, but I can’t make a rule that I can’t follow myself.
I would have to admit that I absolutely LOVED this post and the idea. It was so awe inspiring that I even made Kyle and I’s bed after a week of not being disciplined to do so…AND I even had it completed before school started!
I shared your thoughts with my girls as we were getting breakfast. MaKayla’s response, “Ugh!?!” Mallary’s response, “I don’t even know HOW to put sheets on the bed.” I assured her that she would learn REAL quick! MaKayla’s watched me enough to know how much of a task it can be…especially on her day bed!
Too fun! (I guess that’s all in the eye of the beholder!)
Hope you’re all doing well! :o)
Oh that is funny! Well not funny if you’re having to make the bed but funny for me, the Mama 🙂
Love all your ideas~ keep sharing~ Cinnamon
You n I think a lot alike! Love your blog. Thanks for visiting mine!